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I’m sure we’re all no stranger to the stereotypical stories of members of the male sex going across the causeway to enjoy a massage, and for a little extra tip, they get a “happy ending”.
It was a pleasant surprise, then, to find out that Lingam Massages existed.
What Is A Lingam Massage? | Benefits | Tips To Give A Lingam Massage | Lingam Massage Practitioners in SG
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What is a “Lingam Massage”?
The term lingam translates to “wand of light” and refers to the male counterpart in the ancient Sanskrit language. The massage is a type of tantric penis massage developed in Germany in the 70s by Tantric Practitioner Andro Andreas Rothe, and is designed to give the receiver a meditative sexual and spiritual healing through sensations they may not have felt through masturbation or partnered sex. Buddhist principles also believe that Lingam Massages can help the receiver heal from past trauma.
A subset under the Tantric massage family, Lingam Massages are all about moving the energy in your body to a targeted area for healing and pleasure, and you might be surprised to hear that the end goal of a Lingam Massage is for the receiver to not orgasm.
Lingam massage and its benefits?
Arising from its spiritual origins, Tantrics believe that not orgasming allows one to contain the sexual energy within them, and from a meditative standpoint, this can be seen as a good method to train one’s self control. Simply put, the end goal of this massage is not for the receiver to ejaculate, but rather to learn how to build up their sexual energy so they can experience this pleasure and energy all throughout the body once done. In the long term, this can certainly help to improve sexual stamina, and some men have even been able to experience multiple orgasms after undergoing Lingam Massages for awhile.
From an emotional perspective, Lingam massages are great in the sense that it removes the pressure of reaching an end goal in the “correct” manner during partnered sex, and can be a great break for those who experience performance anxiety. Instead, it gives couples the chance to build on physical intimacy in ways other than sex, ironically, while medidating over a penis. (But of course, the male partner can always return the favour, and give her a Yoni Massage – as Tantric Massage for the vulva.)
How to give a Lingam Massage at home
The Lingam Massage aims to combine feelings of well-being with deep relaxation to allow its receiver to let go of pent-up stress related to relationship or self-esteem issues, including those pertaining to sexuality. Learn the little tips and tricks to give him a Lingam massage at home — a surefire way to spice up the foreplay 🥵
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1. Setting the mood
Being such a meditative practice where focus is needed, create an atmosphere that can facilitate this. Choose the songs you know would calm your partner, light some candles, and even change the sheets! (It would probably be hard for them to get in touch with the deepest parts of their soul on a bed sheet that smells a little musky, or makes them itch.)
Emotionally, set your intentions for this experience and enter with an open mindset so that the both of you are able to get the most out of this both individually and as a couple. You can try incorporating some breathwork to sync your breathing just to add to the whole idea of being on the same page.
2. Apply massage oils
Next, apply some massage oils to reduce the friction, increase sensations, and their awareness and arousal, even more so if the oil is scented. Some popular oils to try are olive, coconut, and almond.
Give him an introduction into the massage by gently applying the oil along the shaft, then slowly proceeding to the pubic bone, perineum (area between the anus and scrotum), and/or prostate.
3. Experimenting with different massage techniques
To tease him a little, don’t zoom in to his “wand of light” immediately, but start around the thighs or stomach, or you can even incorporate his other erogenous zones here. Move your hands slowly and intentionally, so that he (and you) can savour the slow build up of pleasure from the entire experience.
Heighten the pleasure by caressing closer to the penis, at the more sensitive areas like the testicles or perineum. Go slow, and if you feel an orgasm approaching, pull back and focus on another area while he refocuses.
And when you’re both ready, you can finally move on to his lingam. Here are some massage moves that are specific to Lingam Massages: (Credits to Beducated)
To switch things up, you can consider stimulating his prostate, which is thought to be the ‘sacred spot’ in Tantra. Soft, spongy, and about the size of a pea, it can be accessed via the rectum (duh!) either with a finger or prostate massager/vibrator.
4. The exit strategy
In a typical Lingam Massage, you end without giving him an orgasm, so before he finishes, reverse the areas you massage, and finish off with a general body massage to prolong his state of relaxation.
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BUT, we’re no experts here and it’s not like we have to follow the practices of Lingam Massages to a T, so if he wants to ejaculate, by all means, let him!
If this sounds too complicated, try out a professional Tantric Massage in Singapore
All these places offer Lingam, Yoni, and Prostate Massages on top of general Tantric and Sensual Massages. Prices start from $200.
1. Chakra Tantra
2. Top Tantric Massage